Relationship Coaching The capacity to build and maintain effective relationships is the single most important requirement for career success and personal fulfillment. After more than 30 years of working with people in a wide variety of settings, I've become convinced that most personal and organizational problems are symptoms of deeper, unresolved, relationship issues. I believe that the best way to improve relationships is to move toward becoming a more Genuine Giver, a person who maintains a healthy balance between give and take with others. My new book, Becoming a Genuine Giver: Overcoming Relationship Barriers, explains how to do this. It includes the powerful Interpersonal Motivation Scale™, which measures the relative strength of nine motives and their consequences for relationships. Interpersonal Type Motive Pure Taker Immediate gratification Insecure Taker Reassurance Guilty Taker Approval Rationalized Taker Revenge Detached Taker/Giver Self-reliance/Withdrawal Manipulative Giver Control Reluctant Giver Harmony Contractual Giver Mutuality Genuine Giver Love After completing the instrument you can develop a plan for change, using a variety of practical tools, guidelines, and worksheets. This process can help: To complete the Interpersonal Motivation ScaleTM, CLICK HERE and download the Overcoming Relationship Barriers Workbook Individuals: Become more aware of what they really want from others Pinpoint and overcome specific interpersonal barriers Build healthier and more effective relationships Prepare themselves for future relationships Teams, Partnerships, and Boards: Evaluate interpersonal effectiveness Develop greater mutual understanding Reduce interpersonal conflict Build trusting relationships that get things done Organizations: Increase the emotional intelligence of leaders and managers Evaluate and enhance organizational culture Measure job candidates for cultural fit